What Driven Women Need to Learn about Love with Dr. Nicole LePera (The Holistic Psychologist)


In this episode, Dr. Stephanie speaks with Dr. Nicole LePera about relationships and the challenges faced by successful women. Dr. Nicole discusses the impact of childhood experiences, conflict resolution, and the complexities of balancing career and personal life. This episode provides valuable insights and strategies for you to enhance your relationships and find the love you seek.

Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research and studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. She is a holistic psychologist whose work addresses the connection between the mind, body and soul incorporating overall lifestyle and psychological wellness practices. She is the creator of the #SelfHealers movement where people from around the world are joining together in community to take healing into their own hands.


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0:00:01 Setting Boundaries: Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual
0:06:21 Exploring the Impact of Childhood Upbringing on Overachievers
0:10:14 Overachievers Struggling with Identity and Relationships
0:11:49 The Expansive Definition of Trauma in Childhood
0:12:34 Trauma beyond ACEs and the impact on needs.
0:16:33 Stressful childhood experiences and their impact on adulthood.
0:20:00 Exploring the caretaker, overachiever, and yes person archetypes.
0:23:09 Reactive states: fighting, fleeing, and freezing
0:26:22 How reactive behaviors affect conflict in partnerships
0:30:23 Becoming a skilled fighter/negotiator in healthy relationships
0:36:19 The Importance of Boundaries in Relationships and Navigating Conflict
0:40:58 The Importance of Open Conversation and Exploring Differences
0:44:11 Lack of Skills in Navigating Relationships and Conflict
0:44:46 Protecting the Bubble: Steps to Resolve Conflict with Your Partner
0:49:08 Developing Self-Awareness for Grounded Conflict Resolution
0:53:39 Building a Foundation of Self-Knowledge for Relationship Growth
0:55:27 The Importance of Hydration and Capacity for Stress
1:05:09 Exploring the Concept of the Soul
1:06:15 Exploring the Concept of Soul and Personal Experience
1:15:32 Becoming Heart-Based: The Essence of Love
1:18:46 Free Resources and Wishing Success to Nicole on the Book
1:19:00 Legal and Medical Disclaimer: Listener Responsibility


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I want to throw my grandkids in the air in my 70’s. I want to be squatting even more weight than I am now, and putting my OWN luggage in the overhead bin. Sound like weird goals? For me these are just some of the little things that represent a life well-lived.

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