episode #370

Happiness: Embracing Community, Compassion & Imperfection with Stephanie Harrison


Explore the essence of true happiness with Stephanie Harrison, the visionary behind The New Happy. In this enlightening episode, along with Dr. Stephanie, they dissect the flawed beliefs of individualism and relentless achievement that often define our pursuit of happiness.

“What I’m talking about when I use the word happiness is something that’s broader, more of a state of being or a way of living your life.” – Stephanie Harrison

Stephanie Harrison introduces a transformative approach that emphasizes community, self-awareness, and the celebration of our innate talents. With her extensive expertise in positive psychology, she offers practical advice for anyone feeling stuck or unfulfilled. This engaging discussion is a must-listen for those ready to redefine their own happiness and live a more meaningful life.

Episode Overview:

0:00 Intro/Teaser
3:32 Welcome Stephanie Harrison
3:44 Pursuit of Happiness in All Walks of Life
6:01 The Fallacy of Being Happy All the Time
8:22 Deconstructing the Old Happy vs. New Happy
10:10 Lie #1: You’re Not Good Enough
15:47 Pursuit of Happiness and Societal Conditioning
22:29 The Tyranny of the Perfect Self
27:31 Learning from Mistakes and Frustration
30:06 Lie #2: You’ll Be Happy When
32:24 Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Goals
36:59 Intrinsic Goal Examples
49:24 Lie #3: You Have to Do It Alone
1:04:34 Sharing Your Gifts
1:10:21 Wisdom and Experience
1:13:29 Impactful Realizations
1:16:11 Visual Learning Insights

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Self-Acceptance and Interdependence Promote Longevity: Evidence From a 20-year Prospective Cohort Study

Positive psychological constructs and association with reduced risk of mild cognitive impairment and dementia in older adults: A systematic review and meta-analysis

Social relationship satisfaction and accumulation of chronic conditions and multimorbidity: a national cohort of Australian women

Stephanie’s book – thenewhappy.com

Stephanie’s podcast


Stephanie Harrison is the creator of the New Happy philosophy. Her work has been featured in publications such as CNBC, Fast Company, Forbes, and Harvard Business Review. She is the founder of The New Happy, a company helping individuals, companies, and communities apply this philosophy in their lives. The New Happy’s art, newsletter, podcast, and programs reach millions of people around the world every month. She has a Masters Degree in positive psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. Previously, she was the Director of Learning at Thrive Global.

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I’m Dr. Stephanie

Part geek, part magic, and all the way passionate about being a well-lived woman.

I want to throw my grandkids in the air in my 70’s. I want to be squatting even more weight than I am now, and putting my OWN luggage in the overhead bin. Sound like weird goals? For me these are just some of the little things that represent a life well-lived.

My health is MY job – I’ll be damned if I rely on luck, ‘good genes’ or a cocktail of drugs that over promise and under deliver.

The Betty Body is my first book-baby, and a collection of what I’ve learned after thousands of clinical hours, hundreds of conversations with the world’s top experts, and most importantly…

This book is an outline of what took ME from “rock-bottom health” at 38, to being my own version of a Betty in my perimenopausal mid 40’s. A woman who is physically strong, full of energy, enjoys mental clarity, great sex and a joyful family life. Is it all roses? Of course not. But I have the stamina and tools to deal with the push and pull of life so that it doesn’t turn into chronic stress.

I want this for you too. Let’s go Bettys!